Sometimes you're the bug and sometimes you're the windshiled.

This is my Dad's favorite way to say life isn't fair. There are some other less family friendly versions as well. Whoever told you that life is fair was lying to you. There is no promise that life will be fair. Some of us will have it easier than others. Still more will have a difficult time of it.

Life happens in a purposeful way whether you participate or not. Each experience, each moment is intentional in some way. Sometimes you make the right choice and everything is coming up roses. Life is great and you are happy to just be a part of it. Still there are probably more times than that, where life seems to spit in your face. Be it karma or simple stupidity that gets you into it, there you are.

You find yourself looking around and wondering how you get yourself out of this situation. You do and then you are in another situation.

Rob and I joke about this all the time. Whenever we are faced with any decision of any significance we simply assume we will make the wrong decision and wonder what situation we are inadvertently deciding to get into. We unfortunately cannot see into the future, so we stupidly predict through the lenses of our desires. We rationalize why it's a good idea and give ourselves permission not make this decision because how can we not?

Sometime down the road we are looking at each other and just laughing about it. What can you do really? I mean you could make a different decision,up that is clearly not how it work for us. So our coping mechanism is to laugh and figure our way through this next adventure. It almost always works out in the end.

We definitely had a better go of it when we started trying to learn from our experiences rather than just moving from one to the next. Since changing our tactics in this way we are finding much more success in our life. Now we are sure to get cocky and screw things up again, but at least we now have better tools to survive.

Things are not always fair, sometimes bad things are gonna happen to you, but you can still make some choices in every situation. The biggest advice I have to give is choose how you response to both the good and the bad scenarios. There is no reason you can't be in the moment and experience it. However you can also choose how you respond to it.