There are lots of forms of this phrase, but the general principle is that if you give of yourself you will get that much and more back. Personally this is more true than anyone can really realize. Your family and friend life can be so enriched by engaging with those people on a level with honesty and truth that will bring fulfillment back to you in buckets.
This can mean setting your pride aside and admitting your mistakes in an effort to maintain relationships. We are human and mistakes will be made the true measure is that you are willing and able to accept that, make things right when it happens and move forward.
This is another situation where work and life while they would have similar if not the same outcomes, for whatever reasons being at a place called “work” you can feel inhibited about your conduct and interactions. I can say that I try to be who I am both at work and home, but my personality being what it is can be too much in both places. All of you reading this know that I am a strong personality that cares deeply for everyone around me. I strive every day to help people succeed in what they are pursuing. I do this for myself as well, and spend a large amount of time learning to tame and control my overbearing personality to work in a positive manner both for myself and for my community at large.
On a whole these efforts are repaid with getting to witness people that otherwise didn’t think or believe they could do something, stepping out past their fear and into an experience they never thought they would get to have, or get their in a way that is both fulfilling for them and me. I throw myself into this because I get great joy in even the encouragement of others to reach out and try new and strange things for their universe and succeed or enjoy it.
In my zeal for this activity I can lose control of my personality and it can turn from encouragement and straight talk into something altogether uglier. I am not proud of this part of my personality, but it is there and must be acknowledged. In an effort to push the best out of myself and other people I can (with those intentions that lead me to hell ) instead make those people that I am trying to help feel judged, pushed or told how to be, do, or live.
Not a very pretty thing really. For years I didn’t even know I was doing it. Once I did realize it I instituted a new personal apology rule. When I do this and it happens probably more frequently than I recognize, I go to that person or persons and apologize. There are times when the person does not feel an apology is necessary, but when you have a personality such as mine it is really a good idea. People then understand that you recognize your behavior and own the responsibility of it.
It is one of the great shames of my life, but you must accept people for all of who they are and that includes yourself. While I am not proud of this part of my personality I am able to deal with it. All this story is to say that I work daily at using my strong personality for good in both my personal and work life. On the whole I am repaid with shared positive experiences of my friends and co-workers.
If you put a little extra effort in you might find that you are rewarded with overall a better feeling and experience leaving you a little more fulfilled than you might have been previously.
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