Speak NOW!

it is not just men that can't read minds. All people in the world make assumptions about how people feel about them. How does anyone really know how you feel unless you tell them in some way? I live on they principle regularly. Usually from a negative perspective, for instance I often say to people that if you don't tell me what I am doing to upset you how can I adjust my behavior to prevent that? What about the other way around? How are people whom you love supposed to know that you do in fact love them unless you come out and hit them with it straight on? Actions do speak loudly, but it is words that set the foundation for those actions to mean something.

This is a letter to my friends, those people who are not related to me and therefore not required to like me or dedicate any prat of their life to anything to do with me. I know my personality is something else to behold. I understand that who I am is the gift that I was given, I must accept it for what it is and use it as the tool to impact this world in as positive a way as possible. However, my personality such as it is can be challenging for even the best of friends.

I make it my goal to ensure that I stay in contact with my friends, calling, texting, seeing them, being a part of their lives. The good, the bad, the everyday. I aim for this goal and do not always achieve it. It is all to easy to get caught up in the day to day and determine that you do not have even the time for a text message. Really? no time for a text? Ridiculous, but it happens frequently. I apologize to all of you.

Each of you are a gift to this world. Your personalities are vibrant colors and textures that give me perspective and understanding to so much. I am honored that you all would allow me to be a part of the greatness that you are. You open your lives to include myself Rob and my lovely daughter. There is no expectation of performance so to speak, you accept me in my raw form and I am grateful. You allow me to butt myself into your doings and never send me packing. I am so grateful for you.

I think about all of you often, when I do I should tell you and I am not consistent enough in doing that. It's so important to know you are thought of. The comfort of knowing someone out there who isn't required to, cares enough to think about you and your well being. I am thinking of you, praying for you to be blessed beyond measure, asking Him to present me an opportunity to grace you with a blessing.

You make me a better person and I thank you.

Love to you!

Tristanne

Daily phrase in review

I wrote this quite awhile ago, but never got it posted. This is a recap of my experiment of uplifting the office.

Experiences reviewed:

Well it has been well over a month and while I am not writing every day, have been continuing my daily phrases on the board. It has proven a great buoy to my attitude and how I guard against moving to an ugly place with my emotions. In addition I have gained quite a following of fellow of employees that endeavor to make their way by my office to see what has been written for the day.

I used to quietly snigger at people who tell you to write affirmations and stick them on your bathroom mirror so that you can read it everyday. Honestly I still think it's a little silly,but I have found a great difference in my general disposition since starting this new habit.

The only real problems have is to come up with something meaningful EVERY day. Funnily enough my peers do not like me using cliches or quotes. They prefer me to come up with my own phrases. When I first started this was not trouble, but a mere 20 days later it is much harder than you might think. Everyday isn't awe inspiring but they all have a point.

Every morning while my computer is booting ups have to come up with some turn of phrase that will inspire thought or provoke action. I have truly enjoyed having something that I can look at when I need something to lift me up or bring me down from a heated spurt of emotion.

I was pleased to experience a sort of drawing together of my fellow work friends to endeavor to at least to read and give some thought or short discussion about whatever was on the board.

People felt comfortable giving me their honest feelings about it. If they like it or did not, if it fit their situation for the day, whatever came to mind. Sometimes it would remind them of a memory or and experience and they would share it with me.

While I was pretty scared at starting this practice I have found that it has been very therapeutic for an office of people that are i n a constant state of flux right now.

For now I will continue this practice until I just can't keep it up anymore.

Update:

I quit putting phrases up because let's face it, it is really hard to come up with something "magical" every day. However this ended up creating a new phenomenon. Many who had come to expect the board to have something to read everyday werer disappointed. So I encouraged them to start writing their own. Pretty soon my board had 10 phrases on it. We have erased and are starting over. It seems to be a therapeutic outlet for the people who work in the office.